With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we are all focused on love. Whether you want your husband to finally put in some effort and make you feel special or you are still looking for “Mr. Right”, we are all concentrated on love around the middle of February every year. These guidelines may help improve your chances of getting the Valentine that you want.
When looking for a relationship, whether it is a Valentine’s Day date or a soul mate it is important that we take care of ourselves first. We cannot be true to anyone else until we are true to ourselves. Step 1 is to clean our own emotional baggage. We are all carrying heavy suitcases of our past relationships (romantic and not) and it is important to take inventory of what we are carrying around. Are you distrustful because of a past experience? Do you jump into bed quickly due to insecurity? These are all patterns that have probably been developed over a long period of time. Being aware of certain characteristics that you portray may help you get a clearer picture of how to make your current or future relationships prosper. If you are holding on to past grudges and hurtful memories you cannot be open to another human being. It is important to concentrate on the situation in front of you as a whole instead of harboring on the past.
An Open mind is the next step. By cleaning out the baggage from the past you are now ready to experience life with an open mind. Leaving preconceptions and expectations at the door, you can experience a current or new relationship in a new light. Giving your significant other a new perspective from which you see them will help you get a clearer picture of yourself and of the other person. The relationship can grow on its own path.
If you’ve been married for 50 years or just meeting someone new, these principles can help improve any relationship. Instead of thinking “it will never happen” or “my husband won’t do anything romantic ever” if you focus on the positive you will be a happier and more inviting person to spend time with. Manifesting positive energy will help you achieve this. Using positive statements such as “I believe in my partner” or “I deserve happiness” can help achieve success. As discussed in The Secret we need to visualize and create what we want our lives to be. Creating lists of all the positives will help put this into perspective.
Now that we’ve cleaned up our past, introduced an open mind, and created positive energy it is time to live your life. We have prepared our mind, body, and soul to the best of our abilities. Now is the time to relax. It is time to trust yourself and your partner. Be satisfied in knowing that you’ve done your part and give the universe time to do theirs. It is important to continue thriving in your life and to not “wait around for Mr. Right”. Dwelling on the upcoming February 14th date will not make it any better, however, experiencing your life to the fullest will help make you a happier and healthy person for love to thrive.
KC Putterman LMHC,HC