We all want to be “right” in an argument, but this does not mean we can say whatever is on our mind to our partners. Our “rightness” will usually come off as righteousness, and being “right” does not make a relationship flourish. Good relationships stem from thinking about what you say before you speak. Successful relationships require:
- Thinking about how what you say will make your partner feel (having empathy)
- Knowing that words are not neutral; what you say will either effect your partner negatively or positively
- Giving kindness and speaking kindness: what you say is what you get back.
- Knowing that truthfulness is no excuse for thoughtlessness.
- Remembering that silence is golden. If you truly have nothing left to say, then don’t say anything. If no good will come from what you will say, why say it? Save your breath.
These few quick tips will help you be more in control of your communication. Remember that when you are communicating with your partner or anyone for that matter, it is always important to be mindful of what your are saying. Being aware of what you are saying can promote a healthier relationship by avoiding unnecessary hurt feelings and by conveying what you want to say successfully.