One of the more common relationship problems people seeking help discuss is communication. Each and every relationship has a unique dynamic of communication. Individual relational styles run the gamut from passive to aggressive. Passive communicators favor a style that includes withholding ones true feelings, beliefs, needs, and opinions, in favor of accepting and supporting their partners’. Over time the passive communicator develops resentments and often feels neglected by their partner. Long term feelings of neglect and resentment often leads to passive –aggressive behavior. Aggressive communicators insist, demand, or insure that their needs, wishes, wants, and beliefs are supported irrespective of the consequences. Sometimes seen as bullish or arrogant, aggressive communicators appear interested only in their own needs.
As with most human traits, finding a middle ground is most desirable. The middle ground between passivity and aggression is assertiveness. Holtz Psychological Services’ clinical staff assists those with communication and relationship problems in finding their own assertive voice, enabling them to express their needs, wants, desires, and wishes confidently, while acknowledging the same in their partner. Assertiveness training helps bolster self confidence, improves relationships, and increases feelings of self worth. If you are interested in receiving more information about assertiveness check out our website or give us a call.