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		<title>Pregnancy and Mental Health</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=317</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2012 15:28:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Pregnancy brings about drastic fluctuation in hormones; including mood swings and anxiety. It can be a joyous, overwhelming, terrifying, and transforming journey to becoming a mother. Maintaining a healthy balance of emotions is the key to a happy (and of course healthy) baby. Women’s mental health can greatly impact the outcome and demeanor of their [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Pregnancy brings about drastic fluctuation in hormones; including mood swings and anxiety. It can be a joyous, overwhelming, terrifying, and transforming journey to becoming a mother. Maintaining a healthy balance of emotions is the key to a happy (and of course healthy) baby. Women’s mental health can greatly impact the outcome and demeanor of their unborn baby.</p>
<p>Throughout pregnancy it is important to identify core issues that may have impacted your own growth and development. Being mindful of your own emotional wellbeing and beginning a therapeutic journey may help you throughout your new journey to motherhood. Exploring past issues and resolving them before the baby arrives can put you at a greater advantage to bond and create secure attachment with your baby.</p>
<p>Mindfulness is the first key. As mothers, we have intuition about our babies and their needs. We need to turn on that intuition early in pregnancy and turn it towards ourselves. This can help us to identify where we need to concentrate in terms of our own mental health.</p>
<p>Identifying past issues and resolving them can help create a more stable environment for when your baby arrives. Do you and your partner continuously have the same fight? Do you never get along with your in laws? These are things that are important to work on now! Family and those peripheral relationships are the backbone for your child’s life. Increasing positive familial relationships will help give you support throughout your pregnancy and love and support when the baby arrives.</p>
<p>Trust yourself. Pregnancy is a rollercoaster of emotions and hormones. It is important to trust in your decisions that led you to this point. Trust in your partner and family members, and most importantly, trust yourself. Whether you wanted to be in this situation or not, if you have decided to stay, stay. Make smart choices and follow through. This will increase your perseverance and improve your motherhood qualities in the future.</p>
<p>Cultivate a positive mindset. It is hard to think positive when your bloated, gaining weight, nauseous, sore, or all of the above. However, our mindset can be directly correlated to how we feel. Utilizing positive affirmations can increase our productivity and get us through a tough day. Creating your own personal affirmations is a crucial piece of the puzzle. Where do your thoughts turn negative? Turn those negative thoughts into positive ‘I’ statements to generate healthy and positive feelings. As your baby grows, it will notice the difference between a happy womb and an unhappy womb.</p>
<p>All of these tools can help improve mental health from the beginning of pregnancy. In turn, it will help you put your best foot forward into the realm of motherhood. It is important to prepare yourself physically and mentally for the changes that life is bringing you. Utilizing these tools will help create a positive atmosphere for your growing baby to thrive.</p>
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<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>Spring Cleaning! De Clutter your mind this Spring!</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=315</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:13:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The world today is filled with an excess of information and stress. People today struggle to maintain their families, work, social life, projects and activities; it is a hard act to juggle.It is difficult to take a moment to just breathe. Our brains become stressed with too much overstimulation by friends, family and the media. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The world today is filled with an excess of information and stress. People today struggle to maintain their families, work, social life, projects and activities; it is a hard act to juggle.It is difficult to take a moment to just breathe. Our brains become stressed with too much overstimulation by friends, family and the media. As spring approaches, many families begin to “spring clean” around their homes, what about Spring Cleaning for your mind?<br />
It is important to take a moment to de clutter our minds every now and then so we don’t become overwhelmed. Clutter, or mental noise as it is sometimes classified as, can prevent us from focusing on our goals. This can prevent us from achieving on what truly matters and keep us disconnected from the big picture, and from each other.<br />
We are forced to deal with mental noise everyday. Whether it is the constant thoughts going on in our head or the numerous electronic devices we have accessible all at once, our minds are cluttered and with information. So how can we protect ourselves from the plethora of mental noise in today’s society?<br />
Here are some helpful tools in ‘Spring Cleaning for your mind”<br />
1. Just Breathe. Incorporating deep breathing and meditation can help slow down your mind and let you focus on whatever goal you may have. It is a simple and effective technique that can help you lower stress. Utilizing this technique daily can lower your overall stress levels and help you focus on your tasks.<br />
2. Sleep. Sleep is our bodies’ restorative process. It is important to make sure you are getting enough sleep daily so you can have enough energy to focus throughout the day. Your sleep pattern (or lack thereof) can affect your outlook and productivity. Be aware of your sleep pattern and make changes if necessary.<br />
3. Take a walk. Getting outside as the weather gets nicer is a great way to get your stressful thoughts off your mind. Physical activity is shown to clear the mind. It doesn’t matter what activity as long as it is physical. Outside and nature can help as well. That old motto “Take time to smell the roses’ really does hold true. Our connection to nature is sometimes eliminated due to work and home life, if we can incorporate some outside time we can increase our level of calm.<br />
4. Watch less TV. The television is a huge contributor to the over stimulation of our brains. Whether you watch the news, reality, comedy, or drama programs, they are filled with information that can clutter our brains. TV fills your head with extra noise that is unnecessary. If you can lessen the amount of TV you watch daily you may notice that your mind will have time to quiet on its own.<br />
5. Make a list. Write down a ‘to-do list” of what needs to be done and cross off one thing at a time. Just like taking notes in school helped you remember your homework or what you had learned that day, taking notes for yourself will increase your productivity and the likelihood that you will not forget a task that needs to be done. Once your list is made, pick ONE task and complete it.<br />
6. Go slow. Society has become “professional multi-taskers” which is a blessing and a curse at the same time. If we take a moment to stop and do one task at a time, one idea at a time, it can help us focus our full attention. When we are focusing fully on one objective it is more likely that we will complete it and complete it well. Your mind will be less harried and your finished product (and maybe your boss too!) will thank you.<br />
7. De-clutter your surroundings. Besides de cluttering our mind we need to de-clutter our environment as well. Many people have a “junk drawer or closet” that is filled with unnecessary objects. Reducing our visual clutter can help clear our minds as well. Homes or offices with neat lines and clear desks help reduce the level of stress on a daily basis. Ever walk into your home and see clutter and become instantly stressed? If you eliminate the visual clutter it will occupy less of your mind.<br />
8. Talk to someone. It can be your significant other, family member, friend or therapist, talking to someone can help eliminate some of the mental stress in our lives. Unloading our thoughts by talking can help our thoughts become more coherent so we can better understand ourselves.<br />
9. Incorporate new activities. If you are creative sometimes making something artistic or creative can help focus your mind. If you are not creative, maybe trying something new may help you focus. Utilizing new hobbies and activities pinpoint new neuron connections in our brains and increase the release of neuro transmitters. These neuro transmitters promote good feelings and help us to soothe and calm ourselves naturally. Trying something new may increase the release of these hormones.<br />
10. Write it out. Journaling is a very powerful tool to help us de clutter our minds. We can utilize journaling as a venting technique or a list making technique. Either way it is beneficial for us to write down our thoughts or tasks to identify what needs to get done.<br />
Organizing and de cluttering your mind is a great way to start off the spring season. Make sure to take time daily to utilize these techniques and empty your mind. Notice how much you can or cannot handle and try not to put too much on your plate at one time. As busy professionals juggling family, home and work, this may be difficult, however, your peers and bosses will appreciate the more focused you in the long run.<br />
Focusing and de cluttering our brains can help us to be the best version of ourselves. Begin to notice your feelings associated with different types of clutter so you can deal with those feelings effectively. I f the clutter is still too overwhelming; don’t hesitate to seek professional help from your healthcare practitioner. Getting your mental noise under control will help you be a calmer and happier person overall.</p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>CBT Treatment for Phobias</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=313</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Mar 2012 14:01:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A phobia is an overwhelming and unreasonable fear of an object or situation that poses little real danger. Unlike the brief anxiety most people feel when they give a speech or take a test, a phobia is long-lasting, causes intense physical and psychological reactions, and can affect your ability to function normally at work or [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A phobia is an overwhelming and unreasonable fear of an object or situation that poses little real danger. Unlike the brief anxiety most people feel when they give a speech or take a test, a phobia is long-lasting, causes intense physical and psychological reactions, and can affect your ability to function normally at work or in social settings</p>
<p>There are many types of phobias. Social phobia is the fear of social situations that may involve scrutiny or judgment by others. Specific phobia includes many different fears. Some examples are fear of certain animals, bridges, claustrophobia (tight spaces), heights, bridges, tunnels, hydrophobia (fear of water) agoraphobia (fear of open spaces and going outside), and many more. Many People suffer from these fears on a daily basis. So how do we conquer our fears?</p>
<p>The most evidenced based practice is by cognitive behavioral therapy. Utilizing behavior modification and cognitive techniques you can change your thoughts and behaviors, thus, making you less fearful of whatever your fear may be.</p>
<p>For many phobias, it is often helpful to utilize desensitization and exposure therapy. This helps you change your response to the situation or stimuli that you fear by gradually exposing you to that fear. Gradual and repeated exposure can help reduce the anxiety associated with your fear. This method should only be done with support from a healthcare professional. (Don’t try this at home kids!). Taking small steps in the right direction can help promote a less fearful outlook towards the stimuli.</p>
<p>For most phobias, Cognitive behavioral therapy is a more comprehensive approach of therapy. It incorporates the behavioral aspect of exposure and includes learning ways to cope with the feared object and anxiety. With your therapist you can learn alternate ways to view your fear and explore automatic thoughts and beliefs that may have been associated with your phobia. These automatic thoughts may have been contributing to increased fear of the stimuli. By exploring these beliefs you can create awareness and open yourself up to new thoughts. Then you can develop a sense of mastery and control over your thoughts and feelings.</p>
<p>Combining desensitization and cognitive techniques is a great way to treat phobias. Another cognitive technique used is the hierarchy. A hierarchy is a list that you create that quantifies your fears from less fearful to most fearful. This is a great way to start treatment of phobias because it puts into perspective how fearful a situation or stimuli might be. You start addressing the least fearful first and work your way to the top. This also makes the treatment more palatable because you are treating each situation on its own. </p>
<p>Relaxation techniques such as visualization, imagery, and deep breathing are also used in conjunction with behavioral approaches to treatment. These techniques are utilized throughout the desensitization process to help calm and control the person with the phobia. They are helpful throughout the therapeutic process.</p>
<p>Utilizing Cognitive Behavioral techniques combined with support from family and friends can help treat most phobias. Letting your family and support system be aware of your phobia so they can support and encourage is helpful to keeping the therapeutic process working outside of the therapeutic environment. Conquering a fear is one of the toughest things to accomplish, but also the most empowering.</p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>The secrets of Meditation</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=310</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2012 13:50:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most of us have been told at one time or another that meditation is a powerful tool. When used correctly, it can help calm our mind, body, and soul. So how come there aren’t more yogis’s out there? Probably because mastering meditation is hard. Meditation is a complex process of slowing down your breathing and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Most of us have been told at one time or another that meditation is a powerful tool. When used correctly, it can help calm our mind, body, and soul. So how come there aren’t more yogis’s out there? Probably because mastering meditation is hard.</p>
<p>Meditation is a complex process of slowing down your breathing and your mind. It is not an easy feat to accomplish. The definition of meditation is the emptying of the mind of thoughts, or the concentration of the mind on one thing, in order to aid mental or spiritual development, contemplation or relaxation.</p>
<p>Meditation can bring about spiritual transformation. This can help improve your overall mental health. Learning ways to channel your thoughts can help reduce aggression and violence and increase nurturing and loving environments. Here are some easy tools to help you begin your meditation practice:</p>
<p>1.      Pick soft music. You can buy or download relaxation cd’s or create your own with soft melodic music. The music must be melody only. No words.<br />
2.      Sit comfortably. If cross legged is your most comfortable position that is fine, if it’s not, pick a sitting position that you feel comfortable in. Try to achieve a balanced posture.<br />
3.      Close your eyes. It is easier to concentrate if your eyes are closed. You can become in tune with your consciousness by closing your eyes and listening to your inner thoughts.<br />
4.      Experience what is around you. Use all your five senses to distinguish your environment and focus solely on this.<br />
5.      Incorporate deep breathing. Inhale for five counts and exhale for five counts. (Yes it is that easy to breathe). Utilize your deep breathing as a way to measure your tranquility. Inhale your thoughts and feelings and exhale your worry. Continue this process for up to 5 minutes (the length of meditation is solely based on what you want to achieve).<br />
6.      Utilize visualization techniques to focus on something. Whether it is a crystal ball, sunset on a beach, or the Rocky Mountains. Visualize a particular place and concentrate on that place alone.<br />
7.      Involve all the five senses into your visualization so you can truly experience it. Touch it, taste it, smell it, see it, hear it. Let yourself sit with this until you feel calm. (Length of visualization varies from person to person).<br />
8.      Slowly open your eyes, continuing your deep breathing, and re engage with the world.</p>
<p>Now you can incorporate these easy steps to help begin your meditation practice. You may be surprised what a difference it can make. Meditation helps put your life into perspective so you can focus on what really matters. Take some time out of your busy schedule to meditate today and reap the benefits that yogi’s have been gaining for years. </p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>Therapy is for everyone</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=308</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 14:11:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There are many reasons why people begin counseling. Counseling can be a very powerful tool when you are undergoing a crisis. But can therapy be useful when you are not in crisis? YES! The process of psychotherapy is to help people get “unstuck”. Whether it is working through a trauma, divorce, sickness, or day to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There are many reasons why people begin counseling. Counseling can be a very powerful tool when you are undergoing a crisis. But can therapy be useful when you are not in crisis? YES!</p>
<p>The process of psychotherapy is to help people get “unstuck”. Whether it is working through a trauma, divorce, sickness, or day to day activities; the process unfolds insight and increases awareness into the self. People are able to gain a better understanding of their own behavior and issues. Then they are able to identify their feelings and motivate themselves to be a better person. Therapy helps improve overall health and well being. This in turn can translate into increased self confidence and productivity which can let people live up to their full potential.</p>
<p>People at any age can benefit from the process and experience of therapy. The old adage “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” is not something that translates into counseling. Increasing awareness and insight can in turn create new affects, behaviors, and cognitions.<br />
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<p>ometimes in our lives we just need someone to talk to. A therapist’s job is to provide active listening and unconditional empathy. Where else in your life do you have a one way relationship devoted 110% to you? Most relationships provide a selfish need. The relationship between therapist and patient is for the pure benefit of the patient. This creates a safe space for the patient to explore their feelings without fear of upsetting the person they are speaking to. This therapeutic alliance can give the patient confidence, ease their anxiety, and create space for true identification of their thoughts and beliefs.</p>
<p>By definition psychotherapy is “the treatment of emotional, behavioral, personality, and psychiatric disorders based primarily on verbal and nonverbal communication and interventions with the patient,” Simply put, psychotherapy aims to alleviate psychological distress through talking. This includes, but is not limited to, those with psychiatric conditions. Psychotherapy is a universal treatment that can help improve coping with everyday life.</p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>Healthy Love this Valentine&#8217;s Day</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=305</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:08:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we are all focused on love. Whether you want your husband to finally put in some effort and make you feel special or you are still looking for “Mr. Right”, we are all concentrated on love around the middle of February every year. These guidelines may help improve [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we are all focused on love. Whether you want your husband to finally put in some effort and make you feel special or you are still looking for “Mr. Right”, we are all concentrated on love around the middle of February every year. These guidelines may help improve your chances of getting the Valentine that you want.<br />
When looking for a relationship, whether it is a Valentine’s Day date or a soul mate it is important that we take care of ourselves first. We cannot be true to anyone else until we are true to ourselves. Step 1 is to clean our own emotional baggage. We are all carrying heavy suitcases of our past relationships (romantic and not) and it is important to take inventory of what we are carrying around. Are you distrustful because of a past experience? Do you jump into bed quickly due to insecurity? These are all patterns that have probably been developed over a long period of time. Being aware of certain characteristics that you portray may help you get a clearer picture of how to make your current or future relationships prosper. If you are holding on to past grudges and hurtful memories you cannot be open to another human being. It is important to concentrate on the situation in front of you as a whole instead of harboring on the past.<br />
An Open mind is the next step. By cleaning out the baggage from the past you are now ready to experience life with an open mind. Leaving preconceptions and expectations at the door, you can experience a current or new relationship in a new light. Giving your significant other a new perspective from which you see them will help you get a clearer picture of yourself and of the other person.  The relationship can grow on its own path.<br />
If you’ve been married for 50 years or just meeting someone new, these principles can help improve any relationship. Instead of thinking “it will never happen” or “my husband won’t do anything romantic ever” if you focus on the positive you will be a happier and more inviting person to spend time with. Manifesting positive energy will help you achieve this. Using positive statements such as “I believe in my partner” or “I deserve happiness” can help achieve success. As discussed in The Secret we need to visualize and create what we want our lives to be. Creating lists of all the positives will help put this into perspective.<br />
Now that we’ve cleaned up our past, introduced an open mind, and created positive energy it is time to live your life. We have prepared our mind, body, and soul to the best of our abilities. Now is the time to relax. It is time to trust yourself and your partner. Be satisfied in knowing that you’ve done your part and give the universe time to do theirs. It is important to continue thriving in your life and to not “wait around for Mr. Right”. Dwelling on the upcoming February 14th  date will not make it any better, however, experiencing your life to the fullest will help make you a happier and healthy person for love to thrive. </p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>Benefits of Play Therapy for children</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=302</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 22:06:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Play therapy is a technique being used more and more to connect with children with a variety of mental health conditions. Children suffering through grief and loss, divorce, trauma, low self-esteem, and other concerns such as Anxiety, Depression, Autism, and ADHD can all benefit from this therapeutic approach. Play Therapy is taught from the theoretical [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Play therapy is a technique being used more and more to connect with children with a variety of mental health conditions. Children suffering through grief and loss, divorce, trauma, low self-esteem, and other concerns such as Anxiety, Depression, Autism, and ADHD can all benefit from this therapeutic approach.</p>
<p>Play Therapy is taught from the theoretical approach of “getting on to the child’s level”. By using the child’s own language (i.e. playing), clinicians are able to connect deeper with their clients and provide a positive environment for the therapy to grow.</p>
<p>Children benefit from play therapy by learning how to express their thoughts and feeling in constructive ways. The powerful techniques of this treatment foster decision-making and acceptance of responsibility. It helps teach children problem solving and coping skills for daily stress as well as a practical place for children to explore and practice social skills for appropriate behaviors.</p>
<p>Children are able to learn and explore the ever changing world by having a “safe place” to explore thoughts and concerns. They can learn from their mistakes in this safe setting, which helps to increase confidence and creativity.</p>
<p>Play therapy helps to support emotional healing and growth. It is a non-direct approach that allows the child to have some control over the therapy session. It allows for the clinician and child to work together towards growth and achievement and balances the power dynamic between adult and child.</p>
<p>By utilizing a play therapy approach, it allows the child to not think of therapy as a “punishment”. It creates a safe psychological space where they can explore and grow.</p>
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<p>&#8211;KC Putterman LMHC, HC</p>
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		<title>Thinking positively really can help</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Jan 2012 23:25:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People learn to be more positive from the inside out. We need to train our brain to think positive. Throughout the day, we get many negative comments and images passed through our way. We don’t need to strain ourselves to think of something negative that happened throughout our busy day, however, It takes time and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>People learn to be more positive from the inside out. We need to train our brain to think positive. Throughout the day, we get many negative comments and images passed through our way. We don’t need to strain ourselves to think of something negative that happened throughout our busy day, however, It takes time and energy to determine the ‘happy things’ that happen each day. My challenge to you is to start writing down these affirmative things that happen to you and create your own personal affirmations.<br />
For treating common mental health illnesses such as Depression and Anxiety, it has been shown that positive thinking can increase one’s response to treatment. People who suffer from Depression are often instructed to recite daily affirmations as part of their treatment. Even in the depths of Depression, vocalizing these positive mantra’s can help shift our mind’s focus over time.<br />
Affirmations help us motivate and encourage ourselves. Whether it’s an inspirational quote, or a reminder of something you did well on your fridge, these are all examples of simple ways to affirm ourselves.<br />
It starts with a list. Make a small list, either typed or handwritten, of things that are going well in your life, things that make you happy. From here you can create your own personal affirmation. Some examples are “I am good at my job”; “I am a beautiful person inside and out”. The only rules to affirmations is that they are positive and in the present tense.<br />
One of the benefits of affirmations is that it tricks the brain into positive thinking. When we send more positive messages to the brain it makes us happier beings. This helps mental clarity and increases positive awareness.<br />
Self affirmations should be done daily in order to effectively recondition the brain into thinking positively. Put it on your fridge, at your desk, or by the bathroom sink. Put them somewhere that you will see them daily and can incorporate them into your daily routine.<br />
Starting out with these positive thoughts in the beginning of your day can help set the pace for that day. Ever wake up feeling gloomy? And the day gets worse from there on out? Start with a positive affirmation the next day and see how that day turns out. It just may be a happier, more positive day.</p>
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<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>Proper nutrition as an adjunct therapy for ADHD</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=295</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jan 2012 13:48:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A healthy diet can be helpful to adults and children alike. It can be especially beneficial in supporting brain development and calming one’s behavior. In children diagnosed with ADHD, a proper diet can be a powerful adjunct therapy in conjunction with medication and psychotherapy. There have been anecdotal reports on the benefits for high protein, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A healthy diet can be helpful to adults and children alike. It can be especially beneficial in supporting brain development and calming one’s behavior. In children diagnosed with ADHD, a proper diet can be a powerful adjunct therapy in conjunction with medication and psychotherapy. There have been anecdotal reports on the benefits for high protein, low carbohydrate, and sugar free diets in improving symptoms of this disorder. Some examples of the benefits are improvement in a person’s body chemistry, blood sugar levels and healing abilities.</p>
<p>High sugar diets may aggravate or potentate disturbances throughout the body, including those that are symptoms of ADHD. By improving overall eating patterns these aggravations can be minimized. There is a significant causal relationship between sugar consumption and children with ADHD. Children with ADHD that consume high sugar diets are shown to have more fluctuations and aggravations in their symptoms. By consuming low carbohydrate foods you can lower the amount of sugar-consumed daily. Incorporating whole grains and complex carbohydrates that take longer to digest can help to sustain blood sugar levels throughout the day. This can in turn help children’s behavior to stay balanced.</p>
<p>Instead of relying on pure sugar for energy, incorporating a steady supply of protein throughout the day can be more beneficial. High quality protein from meat, fish or poultry gives our muscles fuel. Utilizing protein as fuel can help make your body more efficient and improve the body’s chemistry and healing abilities.</p>
<p>Involving leafy green vegetables, calcium, and essential fatty acids is another key ingredient in proper nutrition. Fatty fish (Tuna and Salmon), flax seeds, nuts (walnuts and almonds), low fat yogurts and cheese are important “brain foods”. Spinach and Brussel Sprouts are the “super vegetable of 2012”. Combining all of these suggestions can help stabilize your child’s behavior, provide proper nutrition, and improve brain development. Try implementing these changes with the whole family to improve success. </p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC,HC</p>
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		<title>How to make 2012 the best year yet</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=293</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Jan 2012 13:53:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kcputterman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As a society, we all ring in the New Year with big hopes and dreams and by the end of week 1 we quit. Either our resolutions are too hard, or we slip up on a diet, have unrealistic goals, or we just lack motivation. Here are some tips of how to make this year [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As a society, we all ring in the New Year with big hopes and dreams and by the end of week 1 we quit. Either our resolutions are too hard, or we slip up on a diet, have unrealistic goals, or we just lack motivation. Here are some tips of how to make this year be the BEST year yet.</p>
<p>Step 1:<br />
The most important thing when making a Resolution is to KEEP IT SIMPLE. Think of your everyday life and something you want to change. Not something big, but something that you think you can do better. That’s a good place to start.</p>
<p>Step 2:<br />
So many times we try to change things that are complicated or too hard for us. A simple and REALISTIC goal is what will help you succeed in your resolution. Do you want to lose weight? Well maybe 50 lbs isn’t realistic… but maybe 10 is. So carve out a simple and realistic goal and then set out to make an action plan. This will help you plan and organize how you can achieve this goal. (And once you have achieved this goal, you can move onto the next 10 pounds and so on&#8230;)</p>
<p>Step 3:<br />
Taking small steps will help keep your motivation for the long haul. A major life change may seem daunting if it’s all at once. But if you give yourself small tasks that lead up to the major goal this will help it become more attainable. Giving weekly or even daily goals can help break down a large resolution so it is more palatable. Along with small steps is to track them. If we can see our progress throughout the year then we are more likely to keep going. Form a spreadsheet or even a blank piece of paper on your desk where you can reference your progress daily or weekly (depending on the goal).</p>
<p>Step 4:<br />
Positive thinking is a MUST. You need to be your own motivator, so it’s important to cut yourself some slack. So you yelled at your spouse when you vowed to control your temper? So you ate that cookie you swore you wouldn’t touch? You can still attain your resolution. There are 364 more days of the year and every day counts. Give yourself positive reinforcement. Utilize positive affirmations in the mirror and say to yourself “I will do this” or “I believe in myself” every day to keep your motivation and encouragement. Research has shown that positive affirmations can help send your brain positive messages that will in turn create a positive mood.</p>
<p>Step 5:<br />
Ask family and friends to join in. This is the reason why group counseling and Alcoholics Anonymous works so well. When we have others to answer to it helps make us accountable. Accountability helps us succeed. It also makes whatever we are working towards more fun. When we have a friend or family member participating in the activity it can boost our motivation and enjoyment. It can also help bring couples and families together. Quality time doing activities that better ourselves can help improve our personal and romantic relationships. The more satisfied we are with ourselves the more satisfied we will be with our relationships as well.</p>
<p>Step 6:<br />
And the most important of all: Reward yourself. When you are working hard at achieving your goals it’s important to give yourself a pat on the back. You’ve been calm all week? Have that extra cookie! You did all your workouts? Sleep in one morning! You haven’t drank alcohol in a month? Do something fun! All work and no play make no one happy. The reason we have New Year’s Resolutions is to better ourselves. If we aren’t happier than we aren’t really better.</p>
<p>Following these simple steps will help create the change you want to make in your life. Let 2012 be the year that you make it happen. Improve those failing relationships, overcome a fear, lose the weight, and try something new! Let yourself shine in the New Year so you can be the person you want to be.</p>
<p>KC Putterman LMHC, HC</p>
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		<title>RELAXATION EXPO: A Celebration of Calm</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=282</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:39:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Fred</dc:creator>
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		<title>Secrets of Finding a Job</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=279</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Aug 2011 16:52:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Finding a job right now is no easy task.  Many recent graduates are competing with experienced workers for minimal positions.  So what makes you stand out from the crowd? Current  research has identified critical personal characteristics that can help young adults as they begin their careers. They discovered three psychological orientations and behaviors that influence [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Finding a job right now is no easy task.  Many recent graduates are competing with experienced workers for minimal positions.  So what makes you stand out from the crowd?</p>
<p>Current  research has identified critical personal characteristics that can help young adults as they begin their careers. They discovered three psychological orientations and behaviors that influence employment success during the transition to adulthood: educational aspirations, career goal certainty, and job search activities. </p>
<p>Young adults who maintained high career aspirations and clarity of career goals from age 18 to 30 were more likely to be employed between 2007 and 2009 (when they were 33-36 years old) and also to have higher wages in 2009. However, young workers uncertain of their career goals were less successful in weathering the economic turmoil.</p>
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		<title>ADHD Incidence on the Rise</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=277</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Aug 2011 20:41:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Fred Holtz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A recent report by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) in Atlanta released Monday (8/22/2011) suggests that the incidence of ADHD has increased from 6 to 9% over the past several years.  Explanations offered include improved evaluation and detection as well as increased access to qualified mental health providers. At Holtz Psychological Services we pride [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A recent report by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) in Atlanta released Monday (8/22/2011) suggests that the incidence of ADHD has increased from 6 to 9% over the past several years.  Explanations offered include improved evaluation and detection as well as increased access to qualified mental health providers. At Holtz Psychological Services we pride ourselves in using the latest state of the art tests and evaluation tools to assess and diagnosis attention disorders, and to develop and implement sucessful treatment plans.  If you need assistance with the evaluation or treatment of adult or childhood attention disorders call us NOW!</p>
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		<title>Helping people to &#8220;Flourish&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=264</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Aug 2011 13:59:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Fred Holtz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Groundbreaking new research from Martin Seligman, PhD suggests that we can help our clients, communities, loved ones, and society at large to flourish not merely alleviate suffering.  Positive psychological models focus upon helping human beings to not merely overcome adversity and lessen suffering but to truly thrive and live fuller, more meanigful lives.  The pillars [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Groundbreaking new research from Martin Seligman, PhD suggests that we can help our clients, communities, loved ones, and society at large to flourish not merely alleviate suffering.  Positive psychological models focus upon helping human beings to not merely overcome adversity and lessen suffering but to truly thrive and live fuller, more meanigful lives.  The pillars of this model are positive emotion, life/community engagement, development of relationships/relatedness, development of meaning, and  accomplishment (personally defined) can become the &#8220;new&#8221; focus in our work with clients.  Application of such a model within therapy can help not only to alleviate suffering but more importantly help our clients thrive!</p>
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		<title>What Do Video Games Say About Us</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=261</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Aug 2011 02:30:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[3 billion hours, both children and adults are consumed by the amusement of video games.  Obviously, having fun is why we play, but why are the games fun? Recent research has shown that the appeal lies in how video games allow players to adopt desired personality traits, which in turn bolsters their self-esteem.  Studies have investigated [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>3 billion hours, both children and adults are consumed by the amusement of video games.  Obviously, having fun is why we play, but <em>why</em> are the games fun?</p>
<p>Recent research has shown that the appeal lies in how video games allow players to adopt desired personality traits, which in turn bolsters their self-esteem.  Studies have investigated the idea that many people enjoy playing video games because it gives them the chance to “try on” characteristics they would like to have as their ideal self.Much research on video games has concentrated on the possible harmful effects, ignoring the simple question of why people actually want to play them.</p>
<p>A key finding in the current study is that having the ability to virtually change identity and acting through the identity (be it hero, sports star, villain, or a different gender) makes people feel better about themselves and less negative. Researchers found that the enjoyment element of the video games seemed to be greater when there was the least overlap between someone’s actual self and their ideal self.</p>
<p>The suggestion that people are using video games as a positive, self-esteem builder instead of a way to escape from themselves is itself significant.</p>
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		<title>Effect of Domestic Violence on Children</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=254</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 Jul 2011 01:13:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[     Historically, it has been believed that children who witness domestic violence are more likely to be in abusive intimate relationships and experience psychological problems such as post traumatic stress disorder, (PTSD) in adulthood. Some investigators have suggested that a history of family violence or abuse is the most significant difference between delinquent and non [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>     Historically, it has been believed that children who witness domestic violence are more likely to be in abusive intimate relationships and experience psychological problems such as post traumatic stress disorder, (PTSD) in adulthood. Some investigators have suggested that a history of family violence or abuse is the most significant difference between delinquent and non delinquent youth. An estimated 1/5 to 1/3 of all teenagers who are involved in dating relationships are regularly abusing or being abused by their partners verbally, mentally, emotionally, sexually, and/or physically.  Between 30% and 50% of dating relationships can exhibit the same cycle of escalating violence as marital relationships.  However, a new study has found that there are certain protective factors that will foster resilience and increase the likelihood that the cycle of violence will end for women who, as children, were exposed to their mothers’ battering.</p>
<p>     Women who are more resilient, economically stable, have a strong work ethic, are independent and competent are less likely to suffer from PTSD symptoms.  Researchers have found that resiliency was enhanced if mothers were employed full-time — that is, gainful employment has a positive influence on their children’s recovery from witnessing domestic violence.</p>
<p>     PTSD in adulthood is increased if a child had witnessed the abuse of their mother; among children whose mothers experienced mental problems; and in children who witnessed police involvement in violent incidents. In particular, children of mothers who had mental health problems were more likely to develop PTSD later in life, as were children who witnessed the arrest of family members during violent incidents.  Unlike children, adolescents typically have a greater ability to externalize negative emotions.  In addition to symptoms commonly seen with childhood anxiety (e.g., sleep problems, eating disturbance, nightmares), victims within this age group may show a loss of interest in social activities, low self-concept, withdrawal or avoidance of peer relations, rebelliousness, lashing out at objects, treating pets cruelly or abusively.</p>
<p>     Referrals to the appropriate school personnel could be the first step in assisting your child or teen in need of support. When there is suggestion of domestic violence with a student, consider involving the school psychologist, social worker, or guidance counselor. If your child expresses a desire to talk, provide them with an opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings. In addition to talking, they may be also encouraged to write in a journal, draw, or paint.</p>
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		<title>The Skinny on Obesity</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=251</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jul 2011 01:03:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[        The problem of childhood obesity in the United States has grown considerably in recent years. Between 16 and 33 percent of children and adolescents are obese.  Most people do not know the actual definition of obese.  Children that are a few pounds overweight are not “obese”.  Yes, they may have a tendency to gain [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>        The problem of childhood obesity in the United States has grown considerably in recent years. Between 16 and 33 percent of children and adolescents are obese.  Most people do not know the actual definition of obese.  Children that are a few pounds overweight are not “obese”.  Yes, they may have a tendency to gain weight more easily, but obese children are characterized by at least a 10 percent higher weight than what is recommended for the height and body type.  Obesity  usually begins around the age of 5 to 6 years old. </p>
<p>      Most people know that obesity is often a biological issue passed down through by genetics.  If your family is affected by obesity, here are a few tips to help tackle weight problems early on in your child’s life:</p>
<p>       &#8211; During infancy, try breastfeeding and delay introduction of solid foods as this may help prevent obesity.</p>
<p>       &#8211; In early childhood, children should be given healthful, low-fat snacks and take part in vigorous physical activity <strong>every day</strong>. Their television viewing should be limited to no more than seven hours per week (which includes video games and the Internet).</p>
<p>       &#8211; Older children can be taught to select healthy, nutritious foods and to develop good exercise habits. Their time spent watching television and playing with computer or video games should be limited to no more than seven hours each week.</p>
<p>Take a look at these shocking weight facts :</p>
<ol>
<li>Consumption of just 100 calories (the equivalent of 8 ounces of a soft drink) above daily requirements will typically result in a 10-pound weight gain over one year.</li>
<li>Overweight / Obesity can be caused by some drugs such as hormones, steroids, as well as psychoactive drugs like traditional antidepressants</li>
<li>Obesity is believed to be responsible for 5% of cancer cases</li>
</ol>
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		<title>Grief, Loss, and Support</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=249</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jun 2011 02:53:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family & Parenting]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[#grief #support #loss]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Supporting someone that is suffering from grief or the loss of a loved one can be very confusing and tough.  You may be afraid of intruding, saying the wrong thing, or making the person feel even worse. Or maybe you feel there’s little you can do to make things better. Don’t let discomfort prevent you [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Supporting someone that is suffering from grief or the loss of a loved one can be very confusing and tough.  You may be afraid of intruding, saying the wrong thing, or making the person feel even worse. Or maybe you feel there’s little you can do to make things better. Don’t let discomfort prevent you from reaching out to someone who is grieving.  Here are some tips to help you provide the best support that you can:</p>
<p> <strong>What to do:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Acknowledge the situation: &#8220;I heard that your_____ died.&#8221; Use the word &#8220;died&#8221; That will show that you are more open to talk about how the person really feels.</li>
<li>Express your concern: &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry to hear that this happened to you.&#8221;</li>
<li>Ask how he or she feels, and don&#8217;t assume you know how the bereaved person feels on any given day.</li>
<li>I know how you feel.&#8221; One can never know how another may feel. You could, instead, ask your friend to tell you how he or she feels.</li>
<li>&#8220;He&#8217;s in a better place now.&#8221; The bereaved may or may not believe this. Keep your beliefs to yourself unless asked.</li>
<li>Be genuine in your communication and don&#8217;t hide your feelings: &#8220;I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.&#8221;</li>
<li>Offer your support:  &#8221;Tell me what I can do for you.&#8221;</li>
</ul>
<p> <strong>What NOT to do:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Don’t force someone to publicly mourn if he or she doesn’t want to.</li>
<li>Don’t give false or confusing messages, like “Grandma is sleeping now.”</li>
<li>Don’t tell someone to stop crying because others might get upset.</li>
<li>Don’t try to shield a child from the loss. Children pick up on much more than adults realize. Including them in the grieving process will help them adapt and heal.</li>
<li>Don’t stifle your tears; By crying in front of others, you send the message that it’s okay for him or her to express feelings, too.</li>
<li>Don&#8217;t turn your child into your personal confidante.  Rely on another adult or a support group instead.</li>
</ul>
<p>If a grieving friend or family member talks about suicide, get professional help right away. IN A LIFE-THREATENING EMERGENCY, CALL 911.</p>
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		<title>Facebook Depression</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Jun 2011 18:59:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[  “Another potential risk of social media has been dubbed ‘Facebook depression.’ When preteens and teens spend too much time on social media sites, they may begin to show classic signs of depression, such as changing sleep and eating habits, experiencing mood swings, hanging out with different friends or becoming socially isolated” says Dr. Gween [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> </p>
<p>“<em>Another potential risk of social media has been dubbed ‘Facebook depression.’ When preteens and teens spend too much time on social media sites, they may begin to show classic signs of depression, such as changing sleep and eating habits, experiencing mood swings, hanging out with different friends or becoming socially isolated</em>” says Dr. Gween of <em>Pediatrics Now</em></p>
<p><em> </em>It is no surprise to anyone that children and teens are spending more time than ever before on the internet using social media such as Facebook, Twitter, and Chatroulette.  But just what are these outlets doing to the mental heath of our children?  In the past year, there has been several cases in which teenagers have taken their own lives due to bullying and responses by members of these social networking websites. </p>
<p><strong>What is “Facebook Depression”?</strong></p>
<p>Facebook allows users to showcase their lives, from achievements to travel photos to parties. The depression creeps in when teenagers start comparing themselves to their friends. <em> Why can’t my family go on a vacation like his? Why is my boyfriend in pictures with other girls? How come she got a new car for her Sweet Sixteen?</em> Experts have agreed that social media sites exacerbate envy and jealousy due to the pressures of the “my life is an open book” appeal of social networking.</p>
<p><em><strong>What can parents do?</strong></em></p>
<p>Parents should be actively involved in their teen’s social life, both offline and online. Encourage your teen to get off the Internet once in awhile and do activities outside the house to avoid the temptation of returning to the computer.  Get them to join clubs or encourage them to get into a sport or learn to play a musical instrument. It is important that your teen understand that there should be a balance in his or her life. It is important that parents keep an open line of communication with their teens, just as their teens enjoy a sense of openness with their friends.</p>
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		<title>Don&#8217;t Put it Off Any Longer</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=247</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jun 2011 01:20:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[#procrastination #timemanagement]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[        Do you always feel like you are completing assignments or running errands at the last very moment? We put things off because we don&#8217;t want to do them, or because we have too many other things that we value to be more important. Putting things off—big or small—is part of being human. Procrastination can [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>        Do you always feel like you are completing assignments or running errands at the last very moment? We put things off because we don&#8217;t want to do them, or because we have too many other things that we value to be more important. Putting things off—big or small—is part of being human. Procrastination can have external consequences such as a poor grade or internal consequences like anxiety.  However, when procrastination leads to discouragement and stress it is time to take action.</p>
<p>        By creative a productive environment, you will be able to complete your work without distractions.  If you have a laptop, go someplace where you can&#8217;t connect to the Internet. With no Internet, you will not be distracted by social media or youtube videos. If you have left your assignments until the last minute, chances are many things will annoy you.  Don&#8217;t risk frustrating yourself even more by trying to write in an environment that doesn&#8217;t meet your needs.</p>
<p>        Stop using diversions as an excuse.  A common procrastination tool is, “I can&#8217;t function in a messy environment.&#8221; Thus, the assignment is procrastinated longer until other tasks are completed such as cleaning and organizing.  If, when faced with a writing project, you start piling up prerequisites for all the things you must do before you can possibly start writing, you will only create more anxiety and stress for yourself. Many people say, “I do my best work under pressure”.  There are lots of other ways to create pressure for yourself, besides waiting until the night before the paper is due to start writing it. You can set a time limit for yourself or pretend that the paper is a timed essay exam. If you do this in advance, it will be possible to complete a draft and proofread it before the assignment is actually do. </p>
<p>         Try making a schedule in which you can break down your task into manageable bits.  Set a time limit for yourself.  If you determine an exact date which you should have your task completed by, it is more likely that you will adhere to that deadline.</p>
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		<title>Anxiety vs Gender</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=244</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 May 2011 20:37:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kares</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anxiety]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Stereotypically, women are considered worriers while men are portrayed as footloose and fancy-free. In truth, anxiety is a natural emotion for all humans. In fact, anxiety helps us avoid harm and danger. However, it is when anxiety becomes a chronic, even debilitating condition leading to a variety of symptoms such as depression, compulsion, phobia, and/or [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Stereotypically, women are considered worriers while men are portrayed as footloose and fancy-free. In truth, anxiety is a natural emotion for all humans. In fact, anxiety helps us avoid harm and danger. However, it is when anxiety becomes a chronic, even debilitating condition leading to a variety of symptoms such as depression, compulsion, phobia, and/or <a href="http://www.thedeathofanxiety.com/">panic attacks</a> where a cause for concern lies.</p>
<p><strong><em>Social and cultural </em></strong>reasons may contribute to a woman being more prone to anxiety and panic attacks than men. Cultural factors include the predominate ideal in society that women are expected to marry and raise children; that women are expected to bear the burdens of others and be caretakers, often to the neglect of their personal needs. Consequently, it is believed that because women are generally less assertive than men that women deal with more suppressed stress that eventually manifests itself through anxiety and/or panic.</p>
<p><strong><em>Biological</em></strong> contributors, experts say, may include women undergo more drastic physical changes than men, including menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause which effect hormones and mood. Yet, the exact cause of anxiety and panic attacks is unknown,  and the specific reasons behind why women are more likely than men to experience such anxiety are also speculative.</p>
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		<title>Boost Your Self-Image for Summer</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=242</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 May 2011 17:22:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Fred Holtz</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Personal Growth]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Whenever something goes wrong in life, we berate ourselves saying, “I’m an idiot. What was I thinking?” We can forgive others for their wrongdoings but why are we so judgemental on ourselves? When we first heard the word “No” as a child it began a long string of events that continued through childhood as we [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Whenever something goes wrong in life, we berate ourselves saying, “I’m an idiot. What was I thinking?” We can forgive others for their wrongdoings but why are we so judgemental on ourselves?<br />
When we first heard the word “No” as a child it began a long string of events that continued through childhood as we learned new skills, into adulthood when all of our actions are judged by our bosses, family and friends. Studies have shown that children involved in authority-child interactions have reported 70% more negative feelings with only 30% being a mix of positive and neutral. How do we overcome this destructive self image?</p>
<ol>
<li>Become aware of your inner voice- when a mistake is made; realize that you are only human. Separate that one events from every other positive action that you have accomplished</li>
<li>Analyze what you are telling yourself- don’t use “I never..” or “I always..”. Absolute terms are irrational and illogical. They do not reflect reality.</li>
<li>Write down your thoughts- it will increase your mental processes so you can understand what your own mind is doing in shaping your vision of the world and yourself</li>
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		<title>Extinguishing Burnout</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=240</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 May 2011 14:42:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Fred Holtz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[burnout]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Burnout is a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed and unable to meet constant demandsIt is more common than depressing but less severe, more temporary in duration, and caused by a situational stressor. Major Symptoms: Fatigue is one of the major symptoms [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Burnout is a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed and unable to meet constant demandsIt is more common than depressing but less severe, more temporary in duration, and caused by a situational stressor.  </p>
<p><strong>Major Symptoms:</strong><br />
<em>Fatigue </em>is one of the major symptoms of burnout.  You feel emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed, drained and unmanageable.<br />
<em>Depersonalization </em>occurs when you don’t want to engage with anyone and you lose empathy.  Its hard to relate to other people and even yourself<br />
<em>Loss of confidence</em> and competence is the third symptom of burnout.  You feel like your life is slipping out of control.  </p>
<p><strong>Revival of your life:</strong><br />
<strong>Set boundaries.</strong> Don’t overextend yourself. Learn how to say “no” to requests on your time. If you find this difficult, remind yourself that saying “no” allows you to say “yes” to the things that you truly want to do.<br />
<strong>Take a daily break from technology.</strong> Set a time each day when you completely disconnect. Put away your laptop, turn off your phone, and stop checking email.<br />
<strong>Learn how to manage stress. </strong>When you’re on the road to burnout, you may feel helpless. But you have a lot more control over stress than you may think. Learning how to manage stress can help you regain your balance. </p>
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		<title>Success over Stress</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=238</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Apr 2011 16:18:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Fred Holtz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self help]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Self-esteem]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Everyone suffers from some sort of stress. Worrying about school, finding a job, financing the bills, whatever it is there’s ways to alleviate it. STOP thinking negatively: negative, pessimistic thinking will tighten muscles in your body, causing rapid breathing and high blood pressure. Try deep breathing, relaxing, unclench your fists and whenever a negative thought [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Everyone suffers from some sort of stress.  Worrying about school, finding a job, financing the bills, whatever it is there’s ways to alleviate it.<br />
<strong>STOP </strong>thinking negatively: negative, pessimistic thinking will tighten muscles in your body, causing rapid breathing and high blood pressure.  Try deep breathing, relaxing, unclench your fists and whenever a negative thought comes to mind, turn it positive.<br />
<strong>TRICK </strong>your mind: your subconscious does not understand the difference between something real and imagined.  So tell it something positive! Make a list of seven to ten things each day and pick one to repeat to yourself every morning and night.  Imagine yourself accomplishing it as you recite it.<br />
<strong>FIND </strong>the silver lining: instead of viewing an unfortunate event in your life as permanent, think of it as a temporary solution.  Maintaining optimistic interpretations of events leads to the generation of T-cells which are imperative for sustaining your immune system.<br />
<strong>LAUGH</strong>: it is well known that laughter is the best remedy.  But did you know that children laugh more than 100 times a day while adults only laugh around 15?.  Laughter induces the release of endorphins which in turn over ride our stress hormones creating a sense of tranquility in our lives. So watch a funny movie, read a joke book, and surround yourself with positive fun-loving people.</p>
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		<title>HPS April Newsletter</title>
		<link>http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=235</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Apr 2011 00:30:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Fred Holtz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[STRESS LESS AND SIMPLIFY (Even More Items From Our Endless List of “Ways To Relax”) • Give yourself at least five positive affirmations each day • Stay close to positive people and positive influences • Get rid of negative or “toxic” people in your life. Yes, even relatives • Set realistic goals, but be sure [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>STRESS LESS AND SIMPLIFY</strong><br />
(Even More Items From Our Endless List of “Ways To Relax”)<br />
•	Give yourself at least five positive affirmations each day<br />
•	Stay close to positive people and positive influences<br />
•	Get rid of negative or “toxic” people in your life. Yes, even relatives<br />
•	Set realistic goals, but be sure to set them! A goal is a written statement<br />
•	Realize that 95 percent of things we worry about never actually happen<br />
•	Most choices are not between “right” and “Wrong”, but rather between options<br />
•	Find healthy ways to diffuse anger and frustration<br />
•	Spend a few minutes each day removing clutter from your home or office<br />
•	Simplify your life by reducing obligations. Learn to say “No” or “Not now”<br />
•	Screen your calls. Always use an answering machine or voicemail to screen your calls.<br />
•	Spend ten minutes each evening planning your next day. Make a list.</p>
<p><strong>TO NAP OR NOT TO NAP?</strong><br />
Research does indicate that an afternoon nap can increase your mental abilities, learning and memory even better than a cup of coffee or an energy drink. After lunch is a time when the human brain is naturally at a low point and in need of rest. An afternoon nap not only helps restore alertness but also improves neurocognitive functioning to a higher level than before the nap. Sleep, especially stage 2 sleep, seems to be the time when certain types of information are integrated into the brains existing fund of knowledge, clearing the way for new information. Midday naps, particularly if they are 45 minutes or shorter consist primarily of stage 2 sleep. As executives and high tech workers have discovered, the short afternoon or &#8220;power&#8221; nap can have a dramatic effect on improving alertness and learning ability. Obtain your bosses permission when conducting your own nap experiments.</p>
<p><strong>WHERE TO LIVE IF YOU HAVE AUTISM</strong><br />
The greater New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Cleveland, Philadelphia and Boston metropolitan areas are among the ten best places in America to live for people who have autism, according to the results of an online survey released today – the first day of Autism Awareness Month and the eve of World Autism Awareness Day. These locations have the best resources and seem to be more aware of the needs of individuals on the Autism Spectrum. Northern New Jersey, Minneapolis/St. Paul, Seattle and Milwaukee are also among the top ten listed. Among the states faring worst in the survey, in terms of the percentage of negative responses from that state, were Texas, Virginia, Tennessee, Ohio, Florida, Michigan and California.</p>
<p><strong>NEW, OLD RESEARCH ON FOOD COLORING AND HYPERACTIVITY</strong><br />
Artificial food coloring may worsen hyperactivity in some children. This connection was reported extensively during the 1980’s and 90’s, and the research is back in the news today. The effects on behavior are due to a unique intolerance to these substances in some children and not because the coloring is inherently toxic or dangerous in any way. The colorings do not cause hyperactivity. The FDA has not released any final conclusions as of this date, so don’t panic. For now, HPS suggests limiting the following colorings for children prone to hyperactivity: Blue #1 and #2, Green #3, Red #3 and #40, Orange B, and Yellow #5 and #6. Read labels!</p>
<p><strong>RULES FOR DATING</strong><br />
•	Make sure your date is emotionally available and can express personal feelings.<br />
•	Use the rule of threes for online dating: Three emails before the first call, three calls before the first date, three dates before making any commitments, three months before determining if you are in love.<br />
•	Relationships have a direction. If you don’t know where its going, it’s not going anywhere.<br />
•	Your date should know what they want and what they are looking for in a relationship. If you ask, “What are you looking for?” there should be an answer. “I don’t really know” is not acceptable.<br />
•	Nobody is perfect, but any three “red flags” and the relationship should be over. These include bitterness, excessive talking about previous relationships, lack of commitment, excessive drinking, drug use, anger problems, etc. (hostility or abuse counts as three red flags!)<br />
•	Never go back to a previous relationship to give them a “second chance”. It probably will not work.<br />
•	The inability to express emotions openly is a defect. It will likely not improve.<br />
•	What you see is what you get. People grow, but rarely change. You need to love the person for what they are right now, not some future possible potential.<br />
•	Pay close attention to the relationship your date has with their own friends, family, parents, business associates and even with their pets. All of these should be normal and warm. The way your date treats the waitress or waiter in a restaurant is a great indication of how you will be treated!<br />
•	Significant age differences can work in relationships, but they usually do not. Find someone within seven years of your own age.<br />
•	The expression, “I love you, but I am not IN love with you” is an excuse. Don’t accept it.<br />
•	If your date wants to “see other people”, tell them to watch a baseball game. The relationship is over.</p>
<p><strong>HPS NEWS!</strong><br />
We are pleased to welcome our newest staff members: Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite, PhD and Karen Jason, PhD. Find out more about them by visiting our website: www.Therapy-Now.com.<br />
Please have your friends and family members sign up for this free newsletter at our website: www.Therapy-Now.com.<br />
We accept all major insurance plans. Call today for an appointment: (631) 427-6669.</p>
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