Comments for Holtz Psychological Services - Blog http://therapy-now.com/blog Therapy-Now & Holtz Psychological Services Blog Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:46:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on RELAXATION EXPO: A Celebration of Calm by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=282&cpage=1#comment-3190 Fred Holtz Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:46:35 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=282#comment-3190 This will be the biggest and most exciting event of the year. A wonderful opportunity to explore Yoga, Massage, Nutrition, Chiropractic, Biofeedback, Progressive Muscle Relaxation Techniques, Massage Products, Books and much more! We are giving away our effective new Relaxation Audio CD (In English and Spanish) and a FREE raffle entry to win an iPod. Cirella's Italian Restaurant will be showing off their newest menu which includes Sushi! 7-Eleven will be supplying free coffee, tea, and snacks. A perfect opportunity to Network, relax, and enjoy foods courtesy of local vendors. Stop by 20 Broadhollow Road (Route 110) between 11;00am and 4:00pm, call (631) 427-6669 for information or just show up! This will be the biggest and most exciting event of the year. A wonderful opportunity to explore Yoga, Massage, Nutrition, Chiropractic, Biofeedback, Progressive Muscle Relaxation Techniques, Massage Products, Books and much more! We are giving away our effective new Relaxation Audio CD (In English and Spanish) and a FREE raffle entry to win an iPod. Cirella’s Italian Restaurant will be showing off their newest menu which includes Sushi! 7-Eleven will be supplying free coffee, tea, and snacks.

A perfect opportunity to Network, relax, and enjoy foods courtesy of local vendors.

Stop by 20 Broadhollow Road (Route 110) between 11;00am and 4:00pm, call (631) 427-6669 for information or just show up!

]]> Comment on Grief, Loss, and Support by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=249&cpage=1#comment-2949 Adam Russo Tue, 05 Jul 2011 13:24:34 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=249#comment-2949 There are many wonderful community resources that can help, groups such as Caring Friends and our own staff here at HPS. When grief is prolonged or you find yourself removing yourself from daily life, it may be time to seek professional help for complicated bereavement. There are many wonderful community resources that can help, groups such as Caring Friends and our own staff here at HPS. When grief is prolonged or you find yourself removing yourself from daily life, it may be time to seek professional help for complicated bereavement.

]]> Comment on The Smallest Victims of the Economy by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=193&cpage=1#comment-2889 Adam Russo Fri, 12 Nov 2010 15:28:45 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=193#comment-2889 We all must remember that through our own actions we are always teaching children how to exist in the world, how to make decisions, and how to think and feel about their lives. Sometimes by "keeping up appearances" that everything is ok even when it may not be, we miss crucial opportunities in teaching children how to handle life travails, how to appropriately seek support, and how to self soothe. That being said information given to children should always be age appropriate. We all must remember that through our own actions we are always teaching children how to exist in the world, how to make decisions, and how to think and feel about their lives. Sometimes by “keeping up appearances” that everything is ok even when it may not be, we miss crucial opportunities in teaching children how to handle life travails, how to appropriately seek support, and how to self soothe. That being said information given to children should always be age appropriate.

]]> Comment on Dealing with Grief by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=189&cpage=1#comment-2888 Adam Russo Sat, 06 Nov 2010 17:56:47 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=189#comment-2888 When grief becomes prolonged or distubs sleeping and eating patterns it may be a sign that professional help is needed; there are instances when grief becomes more complicated bereavement. We are herer to help, if you need us call the professionals at Holtz Psychological Services 631-427-6669 When grief becomes prolonged or distubs sleeping and eating patterns it may be a sign that professional help is needed; there are instances when grief becomes more complicated bereavement. We are herer to help, if you need us call the professionals at Holtz Psychological Services 631-427-6669

]]> Comment on Social Networking: Reconnecting with the Past while Living in the Present by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=179&cpage=1#comment-2566 Adam Russo Tue, 26 Oct 2010 18:39:01 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=179#comment-2566 While social networking on the internet can be a fun engaging way for people to re-connect, it is not a surrogate for face to face real human interaction. So much of our lives are "dis-connected" through electronic means that although tempting, we must use technology to enhance our social lives not to direct our social lives..... While social networking on the internet can be a fun engaging way for people to re-connect, it is not a surrogate for face to face real human interaction. So much of our lives are “dis-connected” through electronic means that although tempting, we must use technology to enhance our social lives not to direct our social lives…..

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Glass Half Full by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=170&cpage=1#comment-2489 Adam Russo Sun, 24 Oct 2010 19:25:54 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=170#comment-2489 Optimistic people have less sickness, more life satisfaction, and generally focus on solutions not problems being goal directed, to become more optimistic focus on what works not what doesn't, focus on solutions not problems, celebrate the things you have not the things you don't, and search for the silver linings, they really are there in every cloud! Optimistic people have less sickness, more life satisfaction, and generally focus on solutions not problems being goal directed, to become more optimistic focus on what works not what doesn’t, focus on solutions not problems, celebrate the things you have not the things you don’t, and search for the silver linings, they really are there in every cloud!

]]> Comment on Living with an Angry Person by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=176&cpage=1#comment-2360 Adam Russo Thu, 21 Oct 2010 12:04:45 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=176#comment-2360 Anger is often a problem that is attributed to a wide variety of health concerns including high blood pressure, metabolic syndrome, and heart disease. There is often a difference in the manifestation of anger between the sexes, with woman often being more "hostile"; hostility being a part of their character or personality (often a precursor to heart disease in woman) and often under expressed as woman are often socialized to NOT express anger outwardly. Men on the other hand are often socialized to express anger (emotion) outwardly (aggression being a behavior) and as a result are more prone to high blood pressure stemming from anger. Anger is often a problem that is attributed to a wide variety of health concerns including high blood pressure, metabolic syndrome, and heart disease. There is often a difference in the manifestation of anger between the sexes, with woman often being more “hostile”; hostility being a part of their character or personality (often a precursor to heart disease in woman) and often under expressed as woman are often socialized to NOT express anger outwardly. Men on the other hand are often socialized to express anger (emotion) outwardly (aggression being a behavior) and as a result are more prone to high blood pressure stemming from anger.

]]> Comment on Living with an Angry Person by Tracy http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=176&cpage=1#comment-2233 Tracy Mon, 18 Oct 2010 16:08:01 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=176#comment-2233 This is a very timely topic to discuss. With many people feeling the economic strain, people with poorly developed coping skills will tend to use their most basic human emotion when communicating with others: anger. I agree that it is very easy for angry people to say "you made me angry". It is the emotionally healthy person who can say about their anger, "I'm sorry, I took my anger out on you and I shouldn't have." This is a very timely topic to discuss. With many people feeling the economic strain, people with poorly developed coping skills will tend to use their most basic human emotion when communicating with others: anger. I agree that it is very easy for angry people to say “you made me angry”. It is the emotionally healthy person who can say about their anger, “I’m sorry, I took my anger out on you and I shouldn’t have.”

]]> Comment on Accepting the things that stress us… by DrLaura http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=158&cpage=1#comment-1711 DrLaura Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:03:22 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=158#comment-1711 If you've ever gone water skiing you know one of the first things you're isntructed on is to "let go of the rope if you fall. Often, the novice water skier will continue to hold on to the rope when they fall to try and pull themsevles up, attempting to do it all on their own. With practice and help from professionals the novice learns it's much easier to let go and fall into the water. This allows the boat to turn around, pick you up, and then you can start over. By letting go you give yourslef the oppotunity to start over and move forward. If you’ve ever gone water skiing you know one of the first things you’re isntructed on is to “let go of the rope if you fall. Often, the novice water skier will continue to hold on to the rope when they fall to try and pull themsevles up, attempting to do it all on their own. With practice and help from professionals the novice learns it’s much easier to let go and fall into the water. This allows the boat to turn around, pick you up, and then you can start over. By letting go you give yourslef the oppotunity to start over and move forward.

]]> Comment on Do you have this in black? by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=163&cpage=1#comment-1710 Adam Russo Mon, 04 Oct 2010 11:25:12 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=163#comment-1710 Compulsive shopping can also be a way for an individual to cope with stress, or attempt to fulfill emotional voids. Rarely effective, as Laura points out, therapeutic modalities can assist the individual in reducing the problem behavior of compulsive shopping while simultaneously expanding the individuals other available coping resources. Compulsive shopping can also be a way for an individual to cope with stress, or attempt to fulfill emotional voids. Rarely effective, as Laura points out, therapeutic modalities can assist the individual in reducing the problem behavior of compulsive shopping while simultaneously expanding the individuals other available coping resources.

]]> Comment on Do you have this in black? by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=163&cpage=1#comment-1709 Fred Holtz Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:11:00 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=163#comment-1709 Great Advice! I find that if I shop while in a slightly melancholy mood, I wind up making poor choices! And I absolutely can not go grocery shopping when I am hungry! Great Advice! I find that if I shop while in a slightly melancholy mood, I wind up making poor choices! And I absolutely can not go grocery shopping when I am hungry!

]]> Comment on TIPS ON GETTING YOUR CHILD TO COME TO THERAPY by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=127&cpage=1#comment-615 Fred Holtz Wed, 01 Sep 2010 04:37:43 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=127#comment-615 These are suggestions and may not work for every child, however, many are tried and true. If your child is reluctant to attend sessions, but you know they would really benefit from talking to someone - call us! (631) 427-6669 These are suggestions and may not work for every child, however, many are tried and true. If your child is reluctant to attend sessions, but you know they would really benefit from talking to someone – call us! (631) 427-6669

]]> Comment on Bullying – There is only one real way to stop it by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-614 Fred Holtz Wed, 01 Sep 2010 04:35:16 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=121#comment-614 As the 2010 School Year begins, be aware of signs that your child is being bullied. Also, please be aware of bullying done by your child (it CAN happen). One red flag is when kids seem to constantly talk about a particular student who does not fit in, who once did something embarrassing or who is not a member of any social group. Education and prevention are key. If a problem persists, on either side of the bullying equation, please contact us as soon as possible. As the 2010 School Year begins, be aware of signs that your child is being bullied. Also, please be aware of bullying done by your child (it CAN happen). One red flag is when kids seem to constantly talk about a particular student who does not fit in, who once did something embarrassing or who is not a member of any social group. Education and prevention are key. If a problem persists, on either side of the bullying equation, please contact us as soon as possible.

]]> Comment on Staying Married: Practical Tips for Making Your Marriage Work (Part I) by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=149&cpage=1#comment-223 Adam Russo Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:21:42 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=149#comment-223 Nice tips! For so many of these the antidote is communication: not having sex, feeling under appreciated, not feeling important or getting attention - learn to communicate these things to your spouse or partner as opposed to cheating. If you or a family member or friend are having relationship troubles don't wait until it is too late! Call the relationship specialists at Holtz Psychological Services 631-427-6669 Nice tips! For so many of these the antidote is communication: not having sex, feeling under appreciated, not feeling important or getting attention – learn to communicate these things to your spouse or partner as opposed to cheating. If you or a family member or friend are having relationship troubles don’t wait until it is too late! Call the relationship specialists at Holtz Psychological Services 631-427-6669

]]> Comment on Raising Your Self-Esteem by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=146&cpage=1#comment-178 Adam Russo Mon, 16 Aug 2010 15:28:21 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=146#comment-178 In order to help one build self esteem it is essential that we focus on doing things that bring us positive feedback, in other words we feel good about ourselves when WE DO things that bring about positive change in our lives for ourselves, as opposed to having people tell us nice things about ourselves. Actions as always are more voluminous than words, this concept is called self efficacy, the belief that we can make change in our own lives that benefits us. In order to help one build self esteem it is essential that we focus on doing things that bring us positive feedback, in other words we feel good about ourselves when WE DO things that bring about positive change in our lives for ourselves, as opposed to having people tell us nice things about ourselves. Actions as always are more voluminous than words, this concept is called self efficacy, the belief that we can make change in our own lives that benefits us.

]]> Comment on The Five Principles for Living a Fulfilled and Appreciative Life by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=139&cpage=1#comment-33 Adam Russo Mon, 09 Aug 2010 15:55:08 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=139#comment-33 Sage advice! All too often we fail to value ourselves and take for granted the abundance around us. Sage advice! All too often we fail to value ourselves and take for granted the abundance around us.

]]> Comment on “Mom, Did YOU EVER SMOKE POT OR USE DRUGS? How best to respond to children’s questions about parental experimentation with drugs or alcohol” by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=108&cpage=1#comment-32 Fred Holtz Tue, 03 Aug 2010 15:16:19 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=108#comment-32 And what do we tell our CLIENTS if they ask us if we ever smoked cigarettes or pot? I usually tell them the truth, but always add my opinions, comments and regrets. There needs to be a lesson learned and a reason to reveal this information, but it DOES give us legitimacy among younger clients. And what do we tell our CLIENTS if they ask us if we ever smoked cigarettes or pot? I usually tell them the truth, but always add my opinions, comments and regrets. There needs to be a lesson learned and a reason to reveal this information, but it DOES give us legitimacy among younger clients.

]]> Comment on How to Stop Adult Bullying by Tracy http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=117&cpage=1#comment-31 Tracy Tue, 03 Aug 2010 14:49:39 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=117#comment-31 It's truly important to be cognizant of the signs of adult bullying. Here is an example: You're at a party and the host tries to pour you more wine, after you have said you are stopping because you need to drive home. He/she says, "Aw, c'mon, just a little more..." and begins to pour. You know if you have more you will be impaired. Looking the person square in the eye and saying, "No", firmly, is priority number one. You can always be charming after he/she has stopped their actions and say, "Thanks, though! I've had a great time!" This one incident actually happened to me. That one isolated action may not be considered bullying by itself, but this person's other actions added to my perception of this person (lightly insulting people when they say the need to leave or continuing to utter bigoted conversation even though it is known that it makes the other people uncomfortable). I'll tell you this: The person has certainly been respectful of me and my boundaries since I intervened. Good luck with your own adult "bullies" out there! It’s truly important to be cognizant of the signs of adult bullying. Here is an example: You’re at a party and the host tries to pour you more wine, after you have said you are stopping because you need to drive home. He/she says, “Aw, c’mon, just a little more…” and begins to pour. You know if you have more you will be impaired. Looking the person square in the eye and saying, “No”, firmly, is priority number one. You can always be charming after he/she has stopped their actions and say, “Thanks, though! I’ve had a great time!” This one incident actually happened to me. That one isolated action may not be considered bullying by itself, but this person’s other actions added to my perception of this person (lightly insulting people when they say the need to leave or continuing to utter bigoted conversation even though it is known that it makes the other people uncomfortable). I’ll tell you this: The person has certainly been respectful of me and my boundaries since I intervened. Good luck with your own adult “bullies” out there!

]]> Comment on The Undervalued Self by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=105&cpage=1#comment-26 Adam Russo Fri, 16 Jul 2010 13:52:59 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=105#comment-26 Nice post! Additionally, self efficacy or the beleif that the things I do for myself make a positive difference in my life is an important component of our overall self concept. People feel better about themselves when their actions make a difference in their own life. So, each day ask yourself "what can I do for myself today that will make me feel like I have made a positive difference/impact in my own life today" and then do it NOW! Nice post! Additionally, self efficacy or the beleif that the things I do for myself make a positive difference in my life is an important component of our overall self concept. People feel better about themselves when their actions make a difference in their own life. So, each day ask yourself “what can I do for myself today that will make me feel like I have made a positive difference/impact in my own life today” and then do it NOW!

]]> Comment on Managing Depression by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=99&cpage=1#comment-24 Fred Holtz Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:15:09 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=99#comment-24 What a great idea! It would be useful to develop a simple "attack plan" for anxiety or panic attacks as well. Put your list on an index card and refer to it when anxiety symptoms begin! - Now all I need is a plan to find my keys when I misplace them. What a great idea! It would be useful to develop a simple “attack plan” for anxiety or panic attacks as well. Put your list on an index card and refer to it when anxiety symptoms begin! – Now all I need is a plan to find my keys when I misplace them.

]]> Comment on Stress and Children by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=43&cpage=1#comment-23 Adam Russo Tue, 13 Jul 2010 15:01:43 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=43#comment-23 dd dd

]]> Comment on You Keep Trying to Prove Yourself by Tracy http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=95&cpage=1#comment-22 Tracy Mon, 12 Jul 2010 20:38:07 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=95#comment-22 This article personally resonated with me because, as a woman, the pressure to stay attractive as you age is enormous. I DO believe it is important to make staying healthy a priority because we're only given one body and must treat it well and allow it function well for several decades! However, if you are within a healthy weight and BMI, and your doctor gives you a thumbs up to your current health status, then pushing for perfection can be wrought with unnecessary anxiety. Celebrate your health, continue to treat your body well, but steer away from comparing yourself with the bodies of celebrities...remember, they have trainers and personal chefs to keep them on track! Be good to yourself and revel in how wonderful you are, just as you are. This article personally resonated with me because, as a woman, the pressure to stay attractive as you age is enormous. I DO believe it is important to make staying healthy a priority because we’re only given one body and must treat it well and allow it function well for several decades! However, if you are within a healthy weight and BMI, and your doctor gives you a thumbs up to your current health status, then pushing for perfection can be wrought with unnecessary anxiety. Celebrate your health, continue to treat your body well, but steer away from comparing yourself with the bodies of celebrities…remember, they have trainers and personal chefs to keep them on track! Be good to yourself and revel in how wonderful you are, just as you are.

]]> Comment on Are you Aggressive, Passive, or Assertive? by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=90&cpage=1#comment-21 Fred Holtz Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:46:46 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=90#comment-21 The key to genuine Assertiveness is to be flexible in your level of response. Many situations can be solved by calm, direct communication. However, some difficult circumstances require a gentle slide up the Passive-Assertive scale. The key to genuine Assertiveness is to be flexible in your level of response. Many situations can be solved by calm, direct communication. However, some difficult circumstances require a gentle slide up the Passive-Assertive scale.

]]> Comment on You Keep Trying to Prove Yourself by Fred Holtz http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=95&cpage=1#comment-20 Fred Holtz Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:44:34 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=95#comment-20 Once you discover what you really love to do, don't let anything or anyone stop you! Once you discover what you really love to do, don’t let anything or anyone stop you!

]]> Comment on Are you Aggressive, Passive, or Assertive? by Adam Russo http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=90&cpage=1#comment-19 Adam Russo Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:36:14 +0000 http://therapy-now.com/blog/?p=90#comment-19 Communication is the cornerstone of all human relatedness. As the author points out, assertive direct communication in which we express ourselves while recognizing that each individual we are communicating with has their own preferences, needs, wants, and desires, is a more effective way of interacting with our fellow man, then with aggressive or passive communicating. When we communicate in an aggressive or passive manner we neglect other people and ourselves. Communication is the cornerstone of all human relatedness. As the author points out, assertive direct communication in which we express ourselves while recognizing that each individual we are communicating with has their own preferences, needs, wants, and desires, is a more effective way of interacting with our fellow man, then with aggressive or passive communicating. When we communicate in an aggressive or passive manner we neglect other people and ourselves.

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